It’s tough. When it comes to women many of us grow up to believe in the myth of “soul mates” and “happily ever after”.
You are taught to “be yourself” and the right girl will eventually come along. And once “the one” finally shows up and you prove you are worthy of her love…well then what? That’s right, you “wife her up”.
I was stuck in this paradigm for many years. So much of my mental energy was directed at finding a girl, but I lacked an understanding of women.
The purpose of this article is to offer men a more realistic perspective on women. No more fairy tales…just truth.
Below I have summarized key points from our first piece of reading that I believe should be read by every man.
On Women is an essay written by Arthur Schopenhauer, a German philosopher. Although some may interpret this essay as misogynistic, it touches on many truths in regards to Women.
I will leave the link to the essay at the bottom of the article.
- Woman love realistically, men love romantically.
“Women are more sober in their judgment than we, and why they see nothing more in things than is really there; while we, if our passions are roused, slightly exaggerate or add to our imagination.”
In other words, a man loves a woman unconditionally, while a woman loves a man on the condition that he provides real value. “I love you for merely existing” are the words of the man. “What can you do for me?” is the prerequisite to a woman’s love.
It’s a common occurrence for young men to become infatuated with otherwise ordinary girl. I know because I have been there. On the other hand you do not see many women falling in love with Joe Schmoe. Men are competitors for a woman’s love. Women simply wait around at finish line and fall in love with the winners.
- Women have a higher capacity to deceive than men
“Nature has not destined them, as the weaker sex, to be dependent on strength but on cunning; this is why they are instinctively crafty, and have an ineradicable tendency to lie.
This is why they see through dissimulation in others so easily; therefore it is not advisable to attempt it with them.
Quite simply women communicate below the surface. If you are red pill aware then you understand the concept of watch her actions, not her words. But the cunning nature of women is quite evident. Makeup, hair extensions, push up bras, plastic surgery…these are all forms of deception.
Have you ever had an ex text you out of the blue? “Hey” or “I miss you.” If you are communicating on the surface you interpret these texts as “Oh she wants to talk to me.” But with women you must go below the surface.
To communicate below the surface simply ask questions. “What is her motive?” A great majority of the time the motive is attention. So the random text above can be interpreted as “Will he still give me free attention?
The second half of the quote suggest attempting to fool a fool a woman as “not advisable”. To translate that in practical terms…it is not advisable to be overt in your demonstration of value to women.
So when a guy hits up the bars telling women about how “rich” he is it comes across as extremely low value, why? Because a woman’s frame of communication is below the surface. “This man must be telling me he his rich to overcompensate for other inadequacies.”
This explains the frustration many men have with online dating. You display overt interest in a woman when she has done nothing to earn that attention. The sub communication from the outset is low value.
- Making a woman’s love your purpose will lower your value in her eyes.
“A man strives to get direct mastery over things either by understanding them or by compulsion. But a woman is always and everywhere driven to indirect mastery, namely through a man; to treat women with extreme reverence is ridiculous, and lowers us in their own eyes.”
A mistake that I am sure many of us have made. You do too much for a woman and she loses all attraction. I have made this mistake, thinking that by pleasing a woman I could communicate my love for her. Again, an overt display that is counterproductive.
Instead, aim to please yourself. Instead of buying her flowers, buy yourself a new watch. For those of you who are chasing women…try a different approach. Instead of chasing women, chase your goals.
It is better time spent to chase your goals and develop your faculties. You do not become a better man by chasing women. A woman can walk lose her feelings for you at a moments notice.
But to chase and achieve a worthy goal you must become a better man. The skills and attributes you acquire through this pursuit will last a lifetime.
- Women exist for the race not the individual
Because women in truth exist entirely for the propagation of the race, and their destiny ends here, they live more for the species than for the individual, and in their hearts take the affairs of the species more seriously than those of the individual.
Alpha fucks, beta bucks. Schopenhauer is touching on the cold reality of women’s mating preference. Women are attracted to the alphas, leaders, and men with the best genes.
Women are indifferent to weakness because it is in the best interest of the human race to reproduce with those who are strong and able.
It is important to be aware of this truth so that you don’t fall into the provider trap. If you are an “alpha” in her eyes she will make herself sexually available to you. She is programmed to do so (for the sake of the race).
On the other hand if you have beta tendencies, she will likely make you wait for her sexual favor. If this is so, she has categorized you as a provider. You’d make a great tool for resources. Which bring us to our last point.
- Women depreciate, while men appreciate
“ She pays the debt of life not by what she does but by what she suffers—by the pains of child-bearing…
Nature has had in view what is called in a dramatic sense a “striking effect,” for she endows them for a few years with a richness of beauty and a, fullness of charm at the expense of the rest of their lives; so that they may during these years ensnare the fantasy of a man to such a degree as to make him rush into taking the honourable care of them, in some kind of form, for a lifetime”
Women in their hearts think that men are intended to earn money so that they may spend it.”
As a young man it easy to feel rejected by the world. “No one wants me.” Is often the echo in a young man’s mind.
What you must realize is that you are an appreciating asset. Women are blessed with a few years of graceful beauty so that they may “ensnare” a man.
A man that marries young is effectively putting a cap on his appreciation.
Every year that you avoid marriage and children you have effectively kept the path clear for your ascent.
On the other hand, a woman’s beauty depreciates every year. Her reproductive abilities are less potent with each day that passes.
Realize that you as the man are extremely underrated. As I mentioned before…focus on chasing your goals instead of women. This is the path to reaching the peak of your ascent.
I did not write this article to help you increase your value in the eyes of women. That is largely irrelevant. The opinions of women are fickle and change from one day to the next. Rather, I wrote this for the guys who lack awareness on the true nature of women. In essence, men are largely success objects to women. The same way you want her for her reproductive capabilities, she wants you for your ability to produce.
Do not make a woman your purpose. If you take this and nothing else from this article then I feel that this was worth my time to write. Create your purpose from within.
(If you found this article helpful comment below…I have more readings I’d like to share with you. I will make a part II if it is asked for)
Link to Schopenhauer essay: here
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